Keep the peace

Agreeing to things just to keep the peace is actually a trauma response. When you do this, you're disrespecting your boundaries. No more making yourself uncomfortable for others to feel comfortable. You have control now. You run your life. Take up space and use your voice. Unknown Author

The More. There is so much more going on here. The kicks are in the qualifiers… “based on” … “insignificant” … “others to control” … “overpower.”

Family does not mean keeping secrets, walking on eggshells, lying to keep the peace, pretending others are healthy when they are not, tip toeing around the truth, attending events that derail my healing process, defending poor choices, engaging in toxic behavior, remaining loyal to destructive patterns, or sacrificing my needs in an attempt to fix or save others.⠀

"Agreeing to things just to keep the peace is actually a trauma response. When you do this you're disrespecting your boundaries. No more making yourself uncomfortable for others to feel comfortable. You have control now. You run your life. Take up space and use your voice." ~DJ Love Light⠀

Tags: boundaries - personal electric fence, boundaries with family, bullying, Conflict and Criticism, dealing with coworkers, estrangement, narcissists, passive aggressionWhen you decide to stop engaging, it’s not about letting the other person have their way and him/her ‘winning’; it’s about remaining true to yourself. I hear from people who are in some pretty awkward and […]

If you avoid conflict to keep the peace you start a war inside yourself.

Tiny Buddha on Instagram: ""If you have to sacrifice your voice to 'keep the peace,’ it’s no longer peaceful. You’re internalizing the chaos instead.” ~Zara Bas @zarabaspoetry #tinybuddha #quotes #dailyquotes #quotesdaily #quoteoftheday #wisdom #wordsofwisdom #wisdomquotes #dailywisdom #speakup #peace"