Amory Blaine’s Reviews > Women, Food and God: An Unexpected Path to Almost Everything > Status Update

You will stop turning to food when you start understanding in your body, not just your mind, that there is something better than turning to food. Truth, not force, does the work of ending compulsive eating. Awareness, not deprivation, informs what you eat. Presence, not shame, changes how you see yourself & what you rely on.

Our work is not to change what you do, but to witness what you do w enough awareness, enough curiosity, enough tenderness that the lies & old deceptions upon which the compulsion is based become apparent & fall away. When you believe in yourself more than you believe in food, you will stop using food as if it were your only chance at not falling apart.

It's the belief in war that we focus on, not the weight, because once the belief is gone, the weight will follow.

You can feel showered w $ or love or thin thighs & still feel as if you are separate from all that is good about being alive. [Regardless of] circumstances, your deepest briefs will always - 100% of the time - reconfigure you into the familiar patterns you associate w yourself.

"You can't be stuck if you're not trying to get anywhere."

Not bolting - being awake without being drugged by food, alcohol, work, sex, money, drugs, fame, or in denial (about the crisis we are actually in) - is asking a lot.

To discover what you really believe, pay attention to the way you act - & to what you do when things don't go the way you think they should. Pay attention to what you value. Pay attention to how & on what you spend your time. Your money. & pay attention to what you eat.

The group is riveted by what Nell is saying about the need to be broken. They can relate to the belief that if they Keep themselves wounded & damaged, they will be loved.