Abandonment Issues Quotes

“Narcissists will never tell you the truth. They live with the fear of abandonment and can't deal with facing their own shame. Therefore, they will twist the truth, downplay their behavior, blame others and say what ever it takes to remain the victim. They are master manipulators and conartists that don't believe you are smart enough to figure out the depth of their disloyalty. Their needs will always be more important than telling you any truth that isn't in their favor..”
― Shannon L. Alder

“The fear of abandonment forced me to comply as a child, but I’m not forced to comply anymore. The key people in my life did reject me for telling the truth about my abuse, but I’m not alone. Even if the consequence for telling the truth is rejection from everyone I know, that’s not the same death threat that it was when I was a child. I’m a self-sufficient adult and abandonment no longer means the end of my life.”
― Christina Enevoldsen, The Rescued Soul: The Writing Journey for the Healing of Incest and Family Betrayal

“The need for control always comes from someone that has lost it.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Some people might leave you,' he said, for once ignoring a joke in favor of something real. 'But it doesn't mean you're worth leaving. It doesn't mean that at all.”
― Veronica Roth, Summer Days and Summer Nights: Twelve Love Stories

“Control doesn't validate love; it validates the nonexistence of trust and the painful unwillingness to accept the truth.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“Keep your heart wide open and you’ll be received with open hearts — not by everyone, but to be received by one open heart is more than worth the journey.”
― Marnie Grundman, Missing A True Story Of A Childhood Lost

“sometimes
i love you means
i want to love you

sometimes
i love you means
i’ll stay a little while longer

sometimes
i love you means
i’m not sure how to leave

sometimes
i love you means
i have nowhere else to go”
― Rupi Kaur, Home Body

“At times in life you have to leave people where they left you.”
― Angel Moreira

“Withholding love is a form of self-sabotage, as what we withhold from others, we are withholding from ourselves.”
― Marianne Williamson

“Not really. It’s called OCD and—”
'Yes, yes, so my psychiatrist tells me.'
'You have a shrink?'
'Apparently, I have some repressed anger and unresolved abandonment issues after my experiences with God.”
― Suzanne Wright

“your father left. when you were in
the womb.
took his blood. and walked out the door.
while you were in the house of your mother.
in the house of your mother.
took his blood. when you needed it most.
if he could keep searching his hands. in the midst of your creation.
could hear you forming on your mother’s life. on his life. and
gather all his feet in secret.
all the other wild adventures of missing. he would drag you
through. would only ever be this wound.
over and over and over again.
your father left. when you were in the womb.
took his blood. and walked out the door.
it would be the first and final. of all the leavings.
— all the leavings”
― Nayyirah Waheed, Nejma

“You are not abandoned until you feel that you are! - On Being Abandoned.”
― Lamine Pearlheart, The Sunrise Scrolls: To Life from the Shadows II

“The scars of abandonment linger, revealed in the fear of closeness, the craving for validation, and the haunting echo of 'I’m not enough'.”
― Tracy A. Malone

“i used to cry
because i could not find
a good man to love me
now i have one and
he isn’t enough
the others were always
halfway out the door
- that’s what made them alluring”
― Rupi Kaur, Home Body

“I developed this compulsion to clean as a sort of protection ritual performed when I felt even the slightest bit abandoned, and eventuality that tormented my young imagination.”
― Michelle Zauner, Crying in H Mart

“I developed this compulsion to clean as a sort of protection ritual performed when I felt even the slightest bit abandoned, an eventuality that tormented my young imagination.”
― Michelle Zauner, Crying in H Mart

“Abandonment is not just leaving someone behind; it’s leaving a piece of yourself with them, forever searching for completion.”
― Tracy A. Malone