Dysfunctional Family Quotes
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“The fear of abandonment forced me to comply as a child, but I’m not forced to comply anymore. The key people in my life did reject me for telling the truth about my abuse, but I’m not alone. Even if the consequence for telling the truth is rejection from everyone I know, that’s not the same death threat that it was when I was a child. I’m a self-sufficient adult and abandonment no longer means the end of my life.”
― The Rescued Soul: The Writing Journey for the Healing of Incest and Family Betrayal
― The Rescued Soul: The Writing Journey for the Healing of Incest and Family Betrayal
“Along with the trust issues, one of the hardest parts to deal with is the feeling of not being believed or supported, especially by your own grandparents and extended family. When I have been through so much pain and hurt and have to live with the scars every day, I get angry knowing that others think it is all made up or they brush it off because my cousin was a teenager. I was ten when I was first sexually abused by my cousin, and a majority of my relatives have taken the perpetrator's side. I have cried many times about everything and how my relatives gave no support or love to me as a kid when this all came out. Not one relative ever came up to that innocent little girl I was and said "I am sorry for what you went through" or "I am here for you." Instead they said hurtful things: "Oh he was young." "That is what kids do." "It is not like he was some older man you didn't know." Why does age make a difference? It is a sick way of thinking. Sexual abuse is sexual abuse. What is wrong with this picture? It brings tears to my eyes the way my relatives have reacted to this and cannot accept the truth. Denial is where they would rather stay.”
― Living for Today: From Incest and Molestation to Fearlessness and Forgiveness
― Living for Today: From Incest and Molestation to Fearlessness and Forgiveness
“You cannot fix people who will not take feedback, because from their perspective, they do not have a problem.”
― Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Move Forward
― Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Move Forward
“Abusive parents have inappropriate expectations of their children, with a reversal of dependence needs. Parents treat an abused child as if the child were older than the parents. A parent often turns to the child for reassurance, nurturing, comfort, and protection and expects a loving response.”
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“Sexual abuse is also a secret crime, one that usually has no witness. Shame and secrecy keep a child from talking to siblings about the abuse, even if all the children in a family are being sexually assaulted. In contrast, if a child is physically or emotionally abused, the abuse is likely to occur in front of the other children in the family, at least some of the time. The physical and emotional abuse becomes part of the family's explicit history. Sexual abuse does not.”
― Repressed Memories: A Journey to Recovery from Sexual Abuse
― Repressed Memories: A Journey to Recovery from Sexual Abuse
“She was so upset about a blog that maybe a total of six people read yet had no compassion for her granddaughters who had suffered the physical and emotional pains of sexual abuse and whose lives were changed forever. The two cannot even be compared, yet when someone is in denial about what happened, they cannot perceive what is true. It seemed too hard for her to let her mind go there and believe her grandson could do such terrible things.”
― Living for Today: From Incest and Molestation to Fearlessness and Forgiveness
― Living for Today: From Incest and Molestation to Fearlessness and Forgiveness
“My grandma frequently refers to me as "bitch". She always throws a little extra salt on the word too, for effect.”
― I'm Glad My Mom Died
― I'm Glad My Mom Died
“The fetus is biochemically connected to the mother, and her external, internal, physical, and mental health affect the overall development of the fetus. Stress and depression during pregnancy have been proven to have long-term and even permanent effects on the offspring. Such effects include a vulnerability to chronic anxiety, elevated fear, propensity to addictions, and poor impulse control.”
― Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults
― Human Development and Trauma: How Childhood Shapes Us into Who We Are as Adults
“You can tell a lot about a person's childhood by whether or not they like Christmas.”
― Happy Baby
― Happy Baby
“I'm way more nervous than I've ever been to go on a first date. Maybe because the stakes are higher. This isn't just any first date. This is my first date with my biological dad.”
― I'm Glad My Mom Died
― I'm Glad My Mom Died
“You owe it to yourself to stand up and advocate for yourself. To not agree to what is harmful to you. To protect yourself from further bullying, manipulation, gaslighting, and abuse.”
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“THE NO CONTACT RULE:
1. Zero contact; face to face & online.
2. No phone calls.
3. No text messaging.
4. No attending events where they're present.
5. No emails.
6. No letters, cards, or gifts.
7. No checking their social media profile.
8. No contacting their family and friends.
9. No combing through old photographs.
10. No going down memory lane.
11. Zero communication.”
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
1. Zero contact; face to face & online.
2. No phone calls.
3. No text messaging.
4. No attending events where they're present.
5. No emails.
6. No letters, cards, or gifts.
7. No checking their social media profile.
8. No contacting their family and friends.
9. No combing through old photographs.
10. No going down memory lane.
11. Zero communication.”
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“In Plain Sight by Stewart Stafford
How can I show the real me?
My voice breaking as I speak,
Parched hope's cracked lips,
Delphic in this solitary chic.
Vitriol cannot reach my shore,
The purge reveals little to hide,
Or does rage fester within me?
A cannibal cheerleader inside.
No father around guiding me,
Burnt by mother's acid divide,
Cataracts of persona non grata,
A transient hat tipped in a lie.
© Stewart Stafford, 2022. All rights reserved.”
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How can I show the real me?
My voice breaking as I speak,
Parched hope's cracked lips,
Delphic in this solitary chic.
Vitriol cannot reach my shore,
The purge reveals little to hide,
Or does rage fester within me?
A cannibal cheerleader inside.
No father around guiding me,
Burnt by mother's acid divide,
Cataracts of persona non grata,
A transient hat tipped in a lie.
© Stewart Stafford, 2022. All rights reserved.”
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“I don't think your family was a very safe place to be a little girl.”
― Are You My Mother? A Comic Drama
― Are You My Mother? A Comic Drama
“As a survivor of sibling abuse, the toxic shame is not for the survivor to carry. You didn’t do anything wrong. You were not the one to commit atrocious acts of violence. You have been victimized and traumatized. Today, release the stronghold of toxic shame. The toxic shame belongs to each sibling who abused you.”
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“As a reflect on my life, here is what I have learned, how I have grown, and how I've been transformed. Little Dana as a child may have been a people-pleaser. She may have been a vulnerable, naive girl who was controlled by her mean-spirited family members. But that little girl doesn’t exist. Not anymore.”
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“With gratitude, I have become a healing balm to thousands of people, if not more, who have suffered child abuse, sibling abuse, a dysfunctional family, narcissistic abuse, sexual assaults, and hellish traumatic events. Most importantly, other trauma survivors know they are not alone.”
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“Baiting is the narcissist and flying monkeys deliberate act to provoke emotional reactions from you. It's to confirm their superiority and power over you. The destruction they inflict onto you may baffle you. Baiting could take any form. It's essentially them doing something vile to evoke a negative response from you.”
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“Clearly I hadn't actually won the Shitty Family Olympics, just placed in the qualifiers. It could've been worse.”
― Never Simple
― Never Simple
“After spending five decades of being beaten down, mistreated, and stabbed in the back, little Dana grew up. Little Dana fearlessly faced her trauma wounds. Little Dana cracked open that terrifying door to process and to address everything. And when I write everything, I mean ‘every rotten thing said and done to harm me.’ Everything from my early childhood sexual abuse, child neglect, psychological abuse, physical abuse, unfit parenting by my narcissistic mother, to my sister’s spouse who sexually assaulted me, to every imaginable covert scheme by my six toxic siblings (AKA Flying Monkeys) who sadistically enjoyed hurting me. They each took great pleasure in trying to destroy me, my life, my health, my relationships, my career, and my reputation.”
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“Sibling abuse didn’t just happen to you. It didn’t only happen to me. It has happened to millions upon millions of people worldwide. Let that sink in…
According to the website, Hope4Siblings.com, “In America alone, there are over 40 million sibling abuse survivors. Society pays a huge price when sibling abuse is not given attention and goes uncorrected in lives of many adults. The over-learned maladaptive coping skills generated by an abusive sibling can affect adulthood. Because of sibling abuse, victimization occurred again in their childhoods through bullying. Sibling abuse is often directly connected to the formation of adult personality.”
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
According to the website, Hope4Siblings.com, “In America alone, there are over 40 million sibling abuse survivors. Society pays a huge price when sibling abuse is not given attention and goes uncorrected in lives of many adults. The over-learned maladaptive coping skills generated by an abusive sibling can affect adulthood. Because of sibling abuse, victimization occurred again in their childhoods through bullying. Sibling abuse is often directly connected to the formation of adult personality.”
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“The dysfunctional family relationships are disastrous. Poisonous. There can't be reconciliation. We cannot restore a destructive relationship with abusive siblings when they won't repent. Repentance requires them to turn away from their transgressions and evil schemes. In most cases, toxic siblings won't repent.”
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“It's perplexing how family members claim their undying love for us. They can say whatever they choose. Their actions and behaviors don't match their words. There is an imbalance in sibling and parental relationships. There are distinct discrepancies in what they claimed (saying they did nothing wrong) versus my reality of what took place (abuse). LOVE AND ABUSE CANNOT COEXIST.”
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“Family mobbing is a strategic process of power and coercive control. What makes mobbing so insidious - and so underreported - is that here, the family is the site of violence, trauma, and shame.”
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“Sibling triangulation is a heartless form of manipulation in which one person seeks to control a three-person interpersonal situation for their selfish needs. It can involve the use of threats of exclusion or strategies tom divide and conquer. Sibling triangulation may involve narcissistic abuse. The narcissist could be your father, mother, sibling, partner, spouse, relative, friend, co-worker, boss, or someone else.”
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“Sibling abuse, triangulation, and alienation will influence your ability to trust others. The core problem isn't your lack of trust. Rather, you've experienced unhealthy dynamics with dishonest folks. You may have spent years or decades dealing with backstabbing siblings, friendships, or family members who lied to you, hurt you, and deceived you.”
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
― Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
“If anyone ever tries to tell you that Thanksgiving is all about the food, don't you dare believe them, sure, some people will try to make it about the food, but it's really about love, respect, and gratitude. Without those ingredients, you might as well be serving cardboard.”
― To UnEat An Elephant: A Memoir
― To UnEat An Elephant: A Memoir
“Daddy was an idea man who never quite found a way to make a living with his ideas, but I never doubted his love for Momma. At the same time, I looked around the cabin with its fence-like walls and felt sorry for Momma; she deserved better than to have spiders and mice going through her stuff.”
― Chasing Eden A Memoir
― Chasing Eden A Memoir
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